Are you trying to figure out how to save a relationship from falling apart? Perhaps you are still together with your lover and the break up has not occured yet. But deep inside your heart, you know the inevitable is going to happen any day unlerss you do something about it.
Well, the good news is that it is indeed possible to save a relationship from falling apart. Of course, the things you need to do will differ according to your marital status. If you are married, a lot more things are at stake and you will have to approach your situation in a more careful manner. If you are not married, then you have a bit more choices when it comes to whether you still want to save the relationship.
In this article, let us focus on what non married couples can do to save their relationships from falling apart.
First and foremost, you need to understand that in any relationship, communication is the key. If your ex doesn’t seem to be doing anything to salvage this relationship, then it is up to you to take the initiative. Take the initiative to initaite the conversation.
Here is what I will do when I sense my relationship is on the rock. First, I will speak to my partner about my concern. Tell them that this relationship is important to you and you do not want it to go downhill.
If you sense that they are unhappy, ask them why. Ask them if you have neglected them. Don’t get defensive. Just listen. Understand their needs. If you have neglected their needs, apologize with sincerity. Tell them you are willing to change and ask them how you can make them happy and what you can do for them.
Of course, honesty is important here. You must also tell him/her truthfully what you are not happy about. Tell them about your needs and why they are not being fulfilled. Of course, say it in a tactful manner. Don’t point fingers or criticize. For example, you should say, ‘I would be happy to see you more often’ instead of saying ‘You never spent enough time with me’.
Relationship is 2 sided. Both parties need to give and receive from each other.
If you think this is necessary, you might even suggest to stop seeing each other for a period of time, probably 2 weeks to one month to think things through. Remember, tell them this is not a break up. It is just taking time to think about important issues regarding your relationship.
Both of you must really be clear about what you want. Do both of you still treasure this relationship? Do both of you still want to save this relationship?